Alkylation using dimethyl oxalate (DMO) is a very special reaction. Naf1 pulled up
a great paper long ago, and it states that
This reaction appears to be dependent on dimethylformamide, since the substitution of xylene or dimethyl sulfoxide as the solvent caused the reaction to fail.
Maybe all you'd need is a catalytic amount of DMF.
Nicodem suggested N-methylpyrrolidone as a suitable, OTC substitution. I don't agree that it will work, but it might.
Alkylation of Amines with Alcohols and Carboxylate Esters: the Origin of N-Methylpyridinium Cations in the Synthesis of Pyridine-Molybdate(V) Complexes
Darko Dolenc and Barbara Modec
Acta Chim. Slov. 2008, 55, 752–756
Alkylation with Oxalic Esters. Scope and Mechanism.
Jan Bergman*. Per-Ola Norrby, and Peter Sand
Tetrahedron VoL 46, No. 17. pp. 6113-6124 (1990)
Anomalous Ether Formation in Attempts to Transesterify Oxalate Esters with Phenoxides
EDWARD E. SMISSMAN, * MICHAEL D. CORBETT, SAMIR EL-ANTABLY, AND KATHRYN C. KROBOTH
J. Org. Chem., Vol. 37, No. 24, pp 3944–3945 (1972)
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Heat, instead of a N,N-dimethylamide, may also work. (Found by Naf1.)
n-Octylation of Phenols
Yoshiaki Sakakibara
http://kamome.lib.ynu.ac.jp/dspace/bitstream/10131/3334/1/KJ00004767518.pdfAllylation of Phenols
Yoshiaki Sakakibara
http://kamome.lib.ynu.ac.jp/dspace/bitstream/10131/3336/1/KJ00004767519.pdfN-methylation and N-ethylation of Aniline
Yoshiaki Sakakibara
http://kamome.lib.ynu.ac.jp/dspace/bitstream/10131/3338/1/KJ00004767520.pdfSyntheses of Derivatives of 5, 8-Diethoxyquinoxaline-2,3-Dicarboxylic acid
Yoshiaki Sakakibara
http://kamome.lib.ynu.ac.jp/dspace/bitstream/10131/3332/1/KJ00004767517.pdf